This weekend has been rather eventful. I had a scheduled appointment with one of those prospective grooms. I was running late. I reached the VENUE at 4.15 instead of 4.00 pm. No worries coz the other person was not yet there. I waited. 15 mins. Sent him a message. No response. 30 mins tried calling him. No response. No reply. Another 5 mins. Was impatient. Finally sent a message asking if he was coming or not. Finally got a call.
K - Hey what you doing at this place today
A - Err didnt you fix up a meeting plan today
K - Today!?!@ Wasnt it for tomorrow
A- What!!! You said today 4 pm and ive been here for the last 45 mins!!!
K - Damn. Sorry. Was sleeping. Would it be ok if we met tomorrow
A - Hmm i might have other plans. Id like to be done with it today. How long would you take to come considering you live close by.
K - I just need to shower and come over. Say about 20 mins.
A - Take your time. Ive been here for almost an hour another 20 mins wont hurt
K - Great will be there. And sorry again
A- No issues
He showed up in 5 mins. Great. He was in track pants and Tshirt. Interesting. WE got on talking. He seemed ok. The age difference between us sort of made me feel like a kid. Though he did not look so old. The only thing on his mind mostly was his job. He worked during the week. He slept during the weekend. Hmm no time for anything else. Even better. Weekdays he works till 3 am. Ouch ok.
Meeting over. Im back home. Im hounded by questions. I simply say that hes ok. Good fun. Busy busy and more busy and of course that he forgot about the meeting. Other than that i honestly dont have anything else to say about him.
Sunday - i was lying down chatting with Abhis friend. Phone rings. Abhi gives it to me saying its K's mother. I tell him to give the phone to dad or mum coz i was not sure if i should talk. Dad talks. I take Ranger for a walk. I come back and then go out to the beach. I come back and then Abhi walks in. K's mother had called. Apparently HoRRoRscope problem. Everything had matched but problem we were in the same 'Gothram'. In simple terms, a girl and boy, even if unrelated but belonging to the same gothram cannot get married. Reason being - they are like brother and sister. Ok cool. No issues but just that time wasted. I did not really worry or ponder over it. Was just irritated that such a thing was so stupidly overlooked.
I did have a lot of questions though. We had sent my horoscope. They did not send K's coz apparently his was some 'shuddha jathakam' and only his astrologer was to read it and match it with others. Great! Mum was hesitant to send mine, coz mine was also some ' shuddha jathakam' and people might cast eyes. HMMM. She agreed to send it coz they were a very good family and could be trusted with the horoscope. And she did just that. They had come back with news saying that all was good and from then on it was upto the boy and girl and the parents were mere facilitators. Great. Loved the attitude
The astrologer was supposed to be one of the best. If he had seen my horoscope and his, its unbelievable that he overlooked such a crucial thing. Most astrologers, first look at the gothram for fear that an unrelated brother and sister might get married : A top astrologer overlooking such an important fact. He sure did have K's best interests at heart. Hmmmm somehow i dont buy that story
Whether K had something to do with this i do not know coz he has not bothered to send a message even for formality sake. If he does - let me just say - a golden opportunity will only knock once or even better - finders keepers losers weepers. Whichever!I dont really feel that ive lost out something great coz he anyways did not have time for anything other than his work. His response to sms messages always takes 24 hours and of course he did forget our first meeting and in two weeks he has called me once.
Mum sent out a strong mail to K's mother. And K's mother sent out the most unbelievable explanation. I silently laughed. Ambi was listening to me read the mail aloud and she practically freaked out. I shall not go into details as i do not believe in defamation.
Nothing else from my side. I aint sad, or upset or depressed. Just bugged coz i had wasted precious time. :)
6 comments:
Hi there
I had commented some time back on one of your blogs--the one where you "yuckingly" wrote about your scooter ride & the airborne attack of the "yuck"... So thats for the re-intro :--) :-)
BTB I was reading a few of your posts & was fascinated by your range of topics as well as your abiloty to articulate the whole range of emotions.... Good ability.
This post compelled me to to say it out....all through you have come through as an extremely intelligent girl who can hold your own in any type of sitiation/conversation & context...
So how come that such a liberated ; in-your-face; care-tuppence girl as you --went through the age-old ( & slightly tedious ) activity of official girl-meets-boy routine??? :--) :--)
Of course you may say that you are following the traditional Iyer family (?!) of falling in line in al matters matyrimonial!!!!
I can understand ok as I am an Iyengar & a similar meeting happened when I got married... Only, its the girl's people who have to do the going after the boy's party.... crazy if you ask me...
I can say this as a bystander now....
Anyway....good for you --the kind of guy you described is a workaholic & would have been an absentee husband....wedded to work--- not nice!!!!
Hope my comment has not upset you... Carry on in your inimitable style--:--) :--)
As I had asked in my earlier comment, since you are in HR ; I'll ask you for some leads for possible openings...later on
Shesh
You dnt have to be depressed... Its not worth it...
nah i aint depressed nor am i upset by the post...and 'shesh' - like u said typical iyengaru aathu pazhakam...couldnt say much to it.. sometimes u just reach a stage where you just do what is told..also kind of sick and tired of looking for the ideal guy on my own.. :)
Chin up dear girl!!! (as Leslie Charteris's The Saint would say...)
Prbably a different touch may do ....Have you ever tried instead of going through the " love at first sight" routine, the othet one viz... " love at first bite" may turn out more apt??? :--) :--)
Know the old adage--" the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" thing???
Probably Prince Charming is just nearby but un recognised???
Ready to melt into your arms by your culinary charms?? :--) :--)
BTB the "zero guy " in "the story untold" blog may just turn out to be the surprise "hero guy" for a happily lived everafter case? :--) :--)
What dyu say??? Amateur psychologist at work eh????
Shesh
Missed out saying it..... :--) :--)
Birds of the same feather eh--re the pazhakam.....
Shesh
Shesh if i depend on my culinary talent im sure as hell gonna remain single all my life...the story untold guy is a great guy...but yea he just doesnt realise it...:)
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